Love Spells 2014
Ah, yes, it’s that time of year again, when a young witch’s fancy turns lightly to thoughts of love – and love spells.
Pagan/Wiccan/Witchcraft Facebook groups are being hit with questions almost daily about “How do I make someone fall in love with me?” “Do you know any love spells you can share?” “How can I break up this other couple?”
Now, granted, not all witches follow the Rede, but most have some sort of code of ethics, a knowledge of right and wrong, and believe in some sort of Law of Return, that what you send out comes back to you in at least equal measure.
And interfering with someone’s free will is just plain wrong. (Well, there is a grey area on that – if someone is hurting someone, yeah, then I’m cool with stopping him or her. But back to the subject at hand.)
You can’t force someone to fall in love with you. You can’t force love.
Not real love, anyhow.
Yes, it is possibly to get someone obsessed with you, but what happens when you get bored and want out? Uh-huh. You’re bored and they’re still obsessed.
Besides, why would you want someone that you had to force to love you? Being loved freely is much better – you know that they are with you because they want to be, they choose to be. That’s a far better ego rush than “I forced him/her to love me.”
That said, it is possible to do ethical love spells.
A couple ways.
One is by focusing on yourself. What might you be doing to block yourself from being in that perfect relationship that you want?
Which leads, of course, to the question, “Do you know what you want?”
Spend time thinking about exactly what you want in a life partner, what s/he is like, what things the two of you would do together, do you want someone who is outgoing and always on the go or do you prefer (or need) someone quieter, someone who is content to spend quiet evenings at home together.
(HINT: If the only things you can think about are your potential partner’s looks, then you are not ready to do any sort of love spell. You’re not even open to real love – go back and re-think your answers to “What might you be doing to block yourself from being in that perfect relationship that you want?” When you’ve gained some insight and maturity you may continue.)
This doesn’t need done in a day. In fact, it probably shouldn’t be. Spend some time on it, say from new moon to full. You want your list to be as true and complete and in depth as possible.
Once you have the qualities you seek firmly in mind (and preferably written down) there are several ways to proceed.
You can focus on your intent to draw love into your life, charge a pink candle with that intent, and light it.
You can charge a piece of rose quartz and carry it with you.
You can make a poppet – just be careful that you aren’t tying it to any specific person, but to the concept, the ideal that you have been creating. Then sleep with it under your pillow, carry it with you (if it’s small enough), leave it on your altar, leave it on your dresser in front of the mirror – whatever works for you.
But the most important thing is to put yourself in places where you can meet the person of your dreams. Staying home and waiting for her or him to come knock on your door is probably not going to yield the best results.
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Recommended correspondences for love spells include roses/rose petals, rose quartz, and pink candles. (Roses make us think of love, rose quartz promotes self-love (and it is necessary to fully love yourself in order to fully love another) and pink is the blending of the red of passion with the white of purity.) And, of course, anything that has meaning to you, personally.